Wednesday, 4 December 2013
You had a great relationship with a mistress for a couple of years. She retired. Now you are looking for someone who looks similar to her and asking her to wear this boots and this pants and talk this words and do this games. And you seem perplexed when I tell you, I can't do this. Let me try to explain with a couple of examples. A mistress -client relationship is a unique thing and each one is different, so whatever I compare it to, it won't really work, but let my try.
1)When you met your wife, she was wearing a red dress, Prada heels and tiny diamond earrings. You had a great marriage, but after 10 years she died. 5 years later, you meet another women and ask her on the second date to put on the red dress and the heels and the diamonds. Ouch!
2) You were a regular in the Indian restaurant across the street. The food was adorable. Among the years, you became friends with the chef and one day you told him a secret: that you liked to eat spaghetti and drink a cappuccino with it. He laughed, and from that moment on, you could order it whenever you came in. And you got a free desert. The whole staff got caught by the immigration police and a new chef and crew arrived. You knew that but you still ordered spaghetti and cappuccino and were expecting your free desert. The French chef was furious and he wouldn't serve it.
What I am trying to say is, that a sub - mistress dynamic is something that grows. It is like an artwork that we create together. I have fetishes like giving pain, military fetish, water-boarding and scat that turn me on no matter with whom I do them. I have others, like role play, that only work for me if you participate. Or if I put you into complete restraint and you feel like “yeah whatever”..it only works for me if it makes you feel bad. Maybe you function in a similar way. Maybe you have fixed fetishes, that work with most mistresses and you have others that only worked with the one mistress. Instead of trying to find a mistress to replace her, just let go. Allow the new mistress to do what she likes and she will take you on a journey to places you have never been before. And you will be surprised to hear this, but even though I have had so many sessions, something new can come up- it just shows up out of nowhere. It feels different with every client. Even though you don't have much to say, you are part of it and I can do it in this particular way only with you.
A note about the plus- services. You come in and tell me, your past mistress would take you to clubs for free and play all night long, she would bring in other friends who use you for free. And you say that to me in a way, that means, I want this from you as well. And I have never seen you before. YOU HAVE TO EARN THE PLUS SERVICES, as they are treats for REGULARS.
And you tell me, she let you lick her pussy for free, she provided the cocaine, she called you every hour, she has put a sharp knife up your ass..well, maybe that is why she retired?